by Esteban Molina, CCH www.PrismaticHypnotherapy.com
I’m a certified clinical hypnotherapist currently living in the San Francisco Bay Area. I have a degree in psychology from the Pontifical Xavierian University in Bogota, Colombia, where I worked as a psychologist with patients experiencing high levels of anxiety and depression due to poor physical health. After moving to the US, I studied hypnosis and its huge potential on our own healing process and personal growth. While I was getting my certification as a clinical hypnotherapist, I started working in a surrogacy agency guiding the intended parents on their journey from the selection of the right surrogate mother to the birth of their child.
My experience working in a surrogacy agency opened my mind to a new frontier, changing my view of mother-child relationships. While I had some knowledge about the importance of mother-baby attachment for a healthy psychological development, this work increased my awareness of the crucial role the emotional wellbeing of the mother plays in the physical and emotional health of the baby.
After opening my hypnotherapy practice, I started preparing surrogate mothers emotionally and mentally for the IVF cycle and later coaching them through their pregnancies, so they could experience an energized and calm childbirth. At the beginning of my work with them, my focus was the surrogate mother and their emotional wellbeing. I utilized hypnosis and energy psychology modalities to lower levels of stress, get rid of fears and phobias, and create a direct trusting connection with their bodies. While listening to their stories, I started noticing that most of the surrogate mothers didn’t have any kind of interaction or communication with the babies they were carrying. I noticed the big wall they had built between them and the babies to protect themselves from any kind of attachment that could lead to a big emotional disarray at the time of the delivery. I started being concerned about the emotional wellbeing of these babies. Intuitively I started using hypnotherapy to communicate with the babies while the mothers were in hypnosis. I explained to the babies what was happening, told them about the existence of their intended parents, shared that the parents were very excited about their arrival, and that they were completely loved and desired.
I have witnessed clients going back in time to when they were in the womb, recollecting their own emotional responses to their mothers’ traumatic experiences during the pregnancy. As a result, I feel confident that these babies are listening to what I’m saying and that I’m helping them make sense of what they are experiencing in the womb, so they can feel safe, loved and desired.
Studying this educators certification program has broadened my understanding of pre and perinatal psychology to become an active advocate for the surrogacy babies that are brought into this world under very specific circumstances -- a very important aspect of surrogacy that so far has largely been neglected.