In the fall of 2014 I enrolled in the APPPAH PPNE program. During this same time I really began to sense my son’s spirit around me and I started having dreams about him. My grandmother was always present in these dreams. It was as if she was telling me about him. A few weeks before we found out we were pregnant I told my husband, “I know we’re not exactly talking about having a baby anytime soon, but I have this feeling our baby is coming sooner than we think.” I slowed down on my doula work to really be present for my own pregnancy and birth. After he was born I supported women postpartum through classes and one-on-one consults. In turn it was really supportive for my own motherhood journey.
As I began to wrap up my PPNE courses the desire to work with couples prior to conception was really strong. I talked often with my mentor, Karen Melton, about the idea of creating a Conscious Conception Seminar for couples. I felt like I needed to have it structured and planned out before I could start working with them. However, she encouraged me to just begin and learn as I went. So in July, 2017 I held my first Conscious Conception Circle for women at my home. I kept it really open with no structure at all. These circles have been some of the most beautiful gatherings I’ve ever been a part of. Women from all walks of life and experiences show up: single women who are already in touch with their spirit baby, women who’ve been trying to conceive for years, women who’ve experienced losses, and women who’ve just started thinking about growing their family. I occasionally have a theme when I see something continually coming up, otherwise the circles remain really open.
I’ve loved holding these circles for women, but I knew I was leaving a big piece out of the equation: the partners. I could no longer just focus on the women; I needed the couples to be together for this conversation. In March I led my first workshop for couples. I’m studying Biodynamic Craniosacral Therapy, so I wanted this workshop to be experiential. I didn’t want to just talk at them. It ended up being a combination of open conversation and embodied exercises. It was so amazing to see how involved the partners were. By the end the oxytocin in the room was palpable.
As I was leaving that night something was so apparent to me. It’s something I’ve known for a while, but can no longer ignore. The lack of support for men/partners is astounding. I decided this shouldn’t just be a one time workshop; it needed to be a series. That way the women can receive support through a few cycles and the partners can connect with each other. I also want them to have the space to integrate what they learn. My first series will begin in August, 2018. We will meet once a month for three months. The first session will be about connecting to ourselves and our story. The second is about connecting to your partner. And the last one is about connecting to your future child/children.
Something else I’m currently exploring is Craniosacral Therapy for couples prior to conception. If I can support couples in connecting to themselves and relating to one another from a grounded, embodied space I believe it will make their transition to pregnancy smoother and give them the tools to stay connected postpartum. In the first session we explore space and contact. I want to give couples a foundation of craniosacral therapy. It’s important for them to understand things like what coming into their fulcrum means, what the tides are, coming into relationship with themselves, and communicating their needs to their partner when we play around with offering more space and coming into contact with one another. The subsequent sessions are table sessions where one partner assists me in working on the other.
It’s all still new, but very exciting. I’m so grateful for the women and couples who have shown up in my life and remained open to the information and experiences. I am also grateful to Karen Melton for giving me the nudge to begin.
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